Sunday, May 9, 2010

Bah Hum Bug!

Yes today is Mother's Day. So big deal. I HATE Mother's Day and everything it stands for. Who really is that PERFECT MOTHER? I don't need to be reminded that I failed on so many levels as that facade of the "Perfect Mother". Don't get me wrong I love being a mother/grand mother and having a mother, just not the celebration of being one!

See I really hate the fact that it is like we are promoting the idea of this "PREFECT" mother. The June Cleavers, Betty Crockers, Mary Poppins of the world, etc... (You get the idea). When in reality there is a very very small number of women who actually fit the mold.

It really makes me sick to my stomach to listen to ALL the "wonderful" things that these so called PERFECT MOTHERS have done. And how "wonderful" their kids have turned out. "Well good for you is what I want to say to them."

And what about the fact that they would DO IT all over again. Are you kidding me! I wouldn't do it unless I could do it better the second time around. Like the saying goes "If I knew THEN what I know NOW". But that ain't going happen!

The overwhelming guilt to be THAT "mother" is what I hate the most. Why is it that on Father's Day you don't see guilt riddin' father's? Is it cause men don't get the guilt feelings like women do? Cause it surely isn't the fact that they have the whole "PERFECT FATHER" thing down.

And don't even get me started with all the MONEY that is centered around this holiday. Why does it take a holiday to be recognized on trying to be the best you know how? Whether it is a mother/father (Mother's Day/Father's Day) or a spouse (Valentine's Day).

So now that I got that off my chest. Happy Mother's Day to all the women out there that aren't PERFECT!


nikki1488 said...

mom ur awesome i totaly agree with that

Valerie said...

I haven't looked at the holiday as a way of celebrating perfection; just as a way of showing thanks to moms for all they do.
(Of course, I know that sometimes church can make me feel like that's what it's supposed to be...celebrating perfection...)

It shouldn't take a special day to show thanks, but it's just a day to make sure the showing of appreciation gets done. LoL

I think that we can be the best mom we can be, with what we know at the time. And you are just that!!!

Happy Mother's Day, whether you like it or not. :D

The Kilpatrick Klan said...

I have never looked at it that way. It is an interesting perspective, but I have to disagree. For me its not about the money, the "June Clevers" its about my kids giving me the thank you mom for doing what you do letters, cards or even just saying it. The appreciation from them for all I have done and do still is all I see. A gift is nice too, but the love I feel from what they make or say is all I need. I have never felt giulty on mothers day for not being perfect, because I know I am not one is perfect. No one! We all can only do the best we can with what we have. Lesia, I think you are an amazing mom! You took in your children when they needed you. Adopted a grandaughter as your own to keep her in the family, visit your sons as often as you can or health permits. Nothing they have done is your fault! Nothing! I think you are a very selfless mom! You do so much for your family no matter what you feel like. No one said life was going to be easy, its just worth it in the end. As long as you do the best you can that is all that matters!

Linda said...

Wow! After reading the last post I would say you are as close to "perfect" as any mother could be. Perhaps it is because you had such a wonderful role model. I agree that "Mother's Day" is a little over rated. I never cared for the day myself, for other reasons. Not having a mother to raise me made it very hard to accept the holiday.
Happy late Mother's Day Lesia!